Going Back to an Ex is Like Taking a Shower and Putting on Dirty Underwear

A contemplative figure sits in shadow, evoking a sense of introspection and retreat.

You step out of the shower, skin clean and refreshed, and there it is: that old pair of underwear. The elastic is worn, the fabric frayed, and—let’s be honest—it’s still stained with the residue of a life lived before. But for some reason, you pick it up, put it on, and wonder why you feel gross all over again.

This is exactly what going back to an ex felt like for me. No matter how much I'd cleansed myself—mind, body, spirit—if I reintroduce old patterns, I'm slipping into something that no longer fits. Something that was never truly clean to begin with.

The Seduction of Familiarity

Why do we go back? Why does the familiarity of that old relationship feel so tempting, even after we’ve outgrown it? It’s simple: the human psyche craves comfort, even if that comfort comes at the expense of our evolution.

That ex—the one who shattered your trust, disregarded your needs, or dimmed your light—represents a cycle. And cycles, especially toxic ones, are seductive. They lure you in with the promise of familiarity, whispering lies like “Maybe this time it will be different.”

Spoiler alert: it rarely is.

The Womb Knows the Truth

Your womb, the sacred seat of your intuition and power, doesn’t forget. It holds memory—energetic imprints of love, pain, and betrayal. When you go backward, your womb reacts. She knows when you’re settling. She knows when you’re compromising your sovereignty for a recycled fantasy.

The problem isn’t just the ex; it’s the willingness to override the wisdom of your body. Your womb has been whispering, “Let it go. Release. Create space for something greater.” But you put on that dirty pair of underwear anyway, ignoring her.

Healing Begins with Self-Respect

Real healing doesn’t come from scrubbing the surface of your life while clinging to the old. It requires radical self-respect. That means recognizing when someone no longer aligns with your higher self and having the courage to close that chapter for good.

Ask yourself:

• Does going back honor the woman you’re becoming?

• Or are you shrinking to fit into a narrative that no longer serves you?

The truth is, clean skin deserves clean, sacred garments. Clean energy deserves a partner who matches your vibration—not someone who pulls you backward into stagnation.

The Power of Release

Letting go isn’t just a physical act; it’s an energetic declaration. When you refuse to go back to an ex, you’re telling the universe you’re ready for more. More alignment. More love. More growth.

And when you release that old pair of underwear, you make space for something exquisite—something that feels like silk against your skin, made just for you.

The Bottom Line

If you’re tempted to go backward, pause. Tune into your body, into your womb. Ask yourself: Am I stepping forward, or am I slipping into old patterns disguised as love?

Honor yourself enough to choose new beginnings. You deserve nothing less.